Sorry for the wall-of-text-y essay. It works better for the sort of writing I'm used to doing (freshman history papers anyone?). Anyways, this was responding to the prompt "what have you accomplished with your family."
There's a bit more detail I'd like to put into this, so please point out places where I'm rambling or could cut some details and still keep the substance. Any other comments that would help me improve the piece would be appreciated too.
My dad and I play a lot of computer games together. The main one that we’ve played over the past year and a half is Warframe. As a family, we have created a space for ourselves in a tiny corner of the Warframe community. We have a clan entirely populated by people we know in person, with almost everything researched, and enough resources accumulated that whenever a new item is added to the tech labs, we can start researching it usually within hours or even minutes of the update. I often play missions with my dad, especially the harder ones. Both of us is individually capable of completing all but the hardest missions, but it’s still nice to run the easier stuff with my dad occasionally. I’ve formed a very significant bond with my dad over Warframe and other games. We can spend hours discussing various strategies until we’re both so tired that we can’t think of anything else, then get up in the morning and pick up where we left off once we’re thinking straight again. Talking to my friends, none of them seem to have quite as strong a bond with their dads as I do with mine.
There is unfortunately some imbalance in-game between me and my dad, which has caused some conflict in the past. My dad has way more time available to him to play, so he can gather resources faster than I can, simply because he has more time. On a couple of occasions, this has led to me burning out, filled with disappointment and doubting my usefulness to a group, since I don’t have as much variety of equipment I can contribute. These were ultimately pettiness on my part. I was placing too much stock in being exactly on my dad’s level and not enough in what I was already bringing to a squad.
Between the amount of time my dad has to play, research new concepts and playstyles, test them, and accumulate resources, he has become a pretty good player despite being older than the average gamer. What he doesn’t have in reflexes, he makes up in solid strategy. I don’t have as much time in my day to play, so I’ve focused my playing on getting better at just playing the game, building game-sense and reactions, rather than the logistics. This difference in focus results in me usually playing as the group’s main damage dealer and my dad playing some sort of supporting role. It’s a comfortable balance that lets me do the things I enjoy in the game (shooting pesky AI enemies in the face) while letting my dad enjoy everything he’s worked so hard to get.
I’ve watched my dad play games for almost a decade and have seen how he plays things. Having played the same games for almost as long, often with the guidance of my dad, I’ve built a love for gaming that sometimes is detrimental to getting other things done. More recently, I’ve seen examples of near-professional level play from my cousin and Will. Between these, I’ve learned how to control the tactical terrain of the game, though not as well as my dad, and also shoot quickly and precisely, though again, not as fast or accurately as the pseudo-pros. I’ve come to accept that it’s unlikely that I will ever be as good as my dad at logistics, as well as accepting that if I wanted to play as well as Will or my cousin, it would take more dedication than I can afford or enjoy.
For that year and a half I’ve been playing Warframe with my dad, I was doing everything with him. More recently, I’ve been venturing out on my own, but when I need a group for something that I can’t or don’t want to handle on my own, my dad is the first person I ask to join me.
That's so cool that you get to bond with your dad in that way. My dad won't play video games with me because he is too bad so I am jealous. Also really neat how you pointed out the differences and their importance between you and your dad. Did he play a lot of games when he was a kid as well?
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